Happy Quest

Do you agree with me that it is sometimes good to engage in a communication with yourself? No, not the crazy looking type where people will think you’ve gone loony and run away from you or worse lock you up in a loony bin! I mean serious conversation with yourself.

When I was a kid I do a lot of it. I talked to myself about what I wanted when I grow up. I stopped myself from doing bad things. I let that person in the soap commercial talk to me about things that I can and cannot do. Its funny how life experiences tend to change your perspective. There are two ways to learn, the good way and the bad way. I must say that before I learned what I call the good way, I learned  in a bad way. As a teenager, I made a lot of bad decisions that lead me to blaming myself. At some point I stopped the kind of conversation that I had with myself. That was a time in my life when I felt that I was just standing still or floating in a sea with neither a sail nor a compass. It took me a while to recognize the fact that I am not going anywhere. Which led me to start asking myself again about which direction I wish to take.  I started asking myself these questions:

• What do I want to do with my life?
• What kind of contributions do I want to give in this world?
• What are the things that are important to me?
• What are the things that I would enjoy doing?
• What do I need to do in order to get to where I want to be?
• What do I do when I encounter hurdles?
• What do I do with people who matter in my life?
• What do I do with people who get in the way of my happiness? do I let them?
• What are my weaknesses, and what can I do to turn them into strengths, or how do I compensate for them?
• How do I celebrate each success, or how do I reward myself for a job well done?
• How do I deal with failures?
• How do I keep my self growing?

Since questions require answers and that one does not get all the right answers right away, I am able to search inside me and outside. I began to understand what I am all about and what I am not. Now I know myself better. I make better decisions, not necessarily the right ones everytime but my batting average has improved.

I realized the value of asking myself questions and relentlessly look for answers.  When the answers don’t come right away, I feel frustrated but I’ve learned enough not to give in to frustration.

If you’ve read about my babbling this far, I suggest that you start asking yourself the above questions if you haven’t done so yet. Get a paper and a pencil and start answering the questions as thoroughly as you can.   When you do you’ll begin to know yourself more and realize that there is so much to discover within you. If you are good at convincing your self to take the necessary steps toward self actualization, you’ll begin seeing your self taking a different direction… a more deliberate shift.

Go ahead and talk to yourself and discover who you truly are.